Monday, October 16, 2006

Monday

Polly and I had a chat with Buster over the weekend about house rules, expectations and involvement in a cooperative family living environment. I don't feel like he's holding up his end of the deal. Fuck it, he probably feels like there is no deal, he made no agreements to any deals. That's true. But as I see it, Polly & I are his strongest advocates. We care so much for him and really do have his best interests at heart, even if he doesn't think so.

So I guess that's the trick, leading a horse to water, then sticking a fucking hose down his throat and making him drink.

I told Buster if he wanted me to give him a lift to school this morning, that we would leave at 7:40AM. I was waiting in the car till 7:45AM before he got in. I'm sick of this sort of shit again, and again. When we say something needs to be done, it doesn't mean in 5 or 10 minutes, it means, "get off your ass and do it now!"

In an hour I'll be picking him up at school. I thought it would be nice to take him hiking in Las Flores Canyon, then maybe watch the sunset in Malibu. Already setting myself up for disappointment, thinking he might actually enjoy doing anything with me. The real question is, do I ask him about his skipping gym class for the last two weeks while I've been out of town, on the way out to our hike, or later this evening or tomorrow AM. I'd like to just have a nice afternoon with him. . . if that's possible.

He shows little or no emotion. Rarely leaves his room. Isn't eating enough. And sits with his laptop instant messaging friends in Cincinnati and Seattle. He's ben at school almost 2 months and hasn't talked to another student.

He's 16 years old, it's time to start to grow up. Realize that in the real world you have to work for a living and things will not always be handed to you on a silver platter, like he's used to.

2 comments:

your brother, your friend said...

DON'T QUIT, SURRENDER, WHY NOT TRY THE GOOD THINGS THAT BUSTER DID TODAY BOOK. REMEMBER WHEN NORM DID THAT WITH US, HOW MUCH WE LIKED IT!

Timmy Jimmy said...

Welcome to parent of a teenager! Haha, Guess what, it get's worse.. then they are out of the house and you wonder what happened, but thru it all, they have their hands out wanting your money...even when they are out of the house, they still want and need your money.
But the upside is that as they get older they begin to realize that you were just a kid that got married to your lady love and had children, thinking how wonderful it would be to have kids... Well, until they grew up and got minds of their own! :)Someday they might realize you were just a person too, trying to figure this thing called life out, like they are now... But when they are little, they looked up to you as all knowing, all powerful, and rightly so... later they realize you were just human with flaws too.
Love you Tom, give Polly a hug for me, and make it a good one!
Tim